It is best to say to a woman that you don’t want her number if “some jealous caveman is going to tell you not to answer it”. Make her work to give it to you.
Last week this lesson was drilled home to me (reading this blog has finally helped me organize my reasoning after 25+ years of dating):
About 2 months ago I met a young woman in a supermarket and took her to a cafe to chat. After about 30 minutes, I suggested that I help her find a job using social media and she seemed to agree and – with reluctance – give me her coordinates, including last name, email and number. I mistakenly did not make it clear that I wanted to be friends for the sake of being friends or date her. I was just going to help her succeed in life (a minor and meaningless gesture as far as young women are concerned – they don’t respect this anywhere near as they will respect a man trying to get in their pants).
An email and a phone call later, it was clear she wasn’t really interested in finding a job and her tone of voice was monotonic so I just forgot about her in favor of other women I’ve been dating.
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